I Watched Old Fashioned (2014, dir. by Rik Swartzwelder)

Clay (Rik Swartzwelder) is a former frat boy who has spent the last nine years trying to find love the old fashioned way.  He won’t accept a kiss on the lips.  He says that all dating does is make people act in superficial and dishonest ways.  He says that he cannot even be alone with a woman unless she is wife.  (Clay’s not married.)  Because he’s so old fashioned, it makes sense that Clay would open an antique store in a small town.  (Of course, he’s named the store Old Fashioned.)  When a single, free-spirited woman named Amber (Elizabeth Roberts) runs out of gas in the town and then impulsively rents the apartment above the shop, Clay is forced to reconsider his rigid rules about dating.

At first, I didn’t know what to make of Old Fashioned.  I can be old fashioned about some things myself but Clay took it to extremes and I wasn’t sure why anyone would want to waste their time trying to get his attention.  Yes, people can be superficial when they’re dating and they act differently once they’re in a committed relationship but what’s the other option?  Arranged marriages?  Only getting to know people through church socials and holiday picnics?  Clay didn’t have the answers for that.  Instead, he just said that he would get married when he met the “right woman” and that he would instinctively know who she was.  Nice plan, Clay. Too bad the real world is a little more complicated than that.

Luckily, it turned out that the movie agreed with me, with Amber challenging Clay’s beliefs and regularly calling him out for his holier-than-thou attitude.  Clay wasn’t presented as being wrong for choosing to be old fashioned but instead for being so extreme about it.  Some good things came about as a result of Clay’s beliefs, like the scene where Clay keeps his best friend from cheating on his fiancée.  But, by being so judgmental and unwilling to compromise, Clay was also intentionally shutting himself off from the world.  He was using his beliefs as an excuse to build walls and keep anyone from getting too close to him.  The movie takes its time in explaining Clay’s backstory and the events that led to him becoming so old fashioned and it turns out that Clay used to be bad even by the standards of the typical frat boy.  Trying to make up for the past, Clay has swung from one extreme to another but he’s never learned how to forgive himself or others for their mistakes.  I still had a hard time believing that Amber would have ever put up with him in the first place but it’s good that she did because Clay really needed someone to help him snap out of it.

Old Fashioned is less about how people should date and more about the importance of being willing to forgive and to accept that no one can ever be perfect.  That’s a pretty worthwhile message, especially in today’s day and age.  Forgiveness should never become old fashioned.

Ana de Armas and Ben Affleck take some deep breaths in the Deep Water Teaser

On the surface, Deep Water just looks like “The movie Ben and Ana did during Lockdown”, but with Adrian Lyne’s name attached to this, I’ve had a double take. Lyne is responsible for Flashdance, 9 1/2 Weeks, Indecent Proposal and Unfaithful. I’m curious about where this one is going. Judging from the heavy breathing, it seems this couple is good at giving tummy tickles.

Deep Water premieres on Hulu on March 18th.

It’s Love, Part 8!

Happy Valentine’s Day! Today, we celebrate love! Love isn’t always easy! As we all know, Valentine’s Day can be difficult when you’re single. Everyone around you is bragging about how in love they are and you just want them to shut up and leave you alone. If you are among those who are single today, do not worry and do not despair.  You’re not the first person to find yourself in this situation and you won’t be the last.  Though you may feel like you, you are not alone.  The path to true love is never an easy one to travel but the destination makes the trip worth it.  To help you on your journey, here are some vintage romance comic covers.  Even in the 1950s and the 1960s and the 1970s, Valentine’s Day wasn’t for everyone.
And as difficult as it can be to find true love, it’s always worth it to look! So. if you’re alone or if you’re a part of a couple, if you’re single or married, in love or simply enjoying life, happy February 14th!  May it be a good day, no matter what it means to you.

Happy Valentine’s Day From The Cats and the Humans at Through The Shattered Lens

To all of our readers, Happy Valentine’s Day!

I’ve written a lot of version of this post since I joined TSL.  This year, the Flame-haired One just wanted to post a picture of Godzilla and King Kong shaking hands but I looked at it and I said, “meh.”  There are some things that only a cat can do.

Today is not going to be an easy Valentine’s Day for some.  For some humans, Valentine’s Day is never easy.   If you will allow a cat to be serious for a minute, many humans have lost loved ones over the past two years, due to the pandemic and everything that goes along with it.  Celebrate love and celebrate happiness but take a minute to remember those who might be hurting or who might be missing their loved ones for the first time.  It’s up to you, the humans, to do this because we cats probably won’t.

Valentine’s Day isn’t just about what you do or where you go.  It’s about loving what you love.  Some humans love other humans.  Me, I love Temptations snacks, playing with my toys, and sleeping 10 hours a day.  That’s what Valentine’s Day is all about to me.

Whatever Valentine’s Day is about to you, we all hope that you are having a good and a safe one!  Happy Valentine’s Day to all!  Be kind to those you love and never, ever forget the cats and the humans in your life!